Resources
Here are some resources that I’ve found helpful.
I hope they help you too. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a type of therapy that utilizes bilateral stimulation to help individuals process traumatic memories and experiences. During an EMDR session, the therapist will guide the individual in recalling a distressing event while simultaneously engaging them in a task that stimulates both sides of the brain, such as following a moving object with their eyes or listening to alternating sounds.
This process can help the individual process and reframe their memories, reducing the distress associated with them. EMDR has been found to be effective in treating a variety of conditions, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, and depression.
Reproduced with permission from EMDRIA.org
Dissociation
When we experience distress that can feel overwhelming, our bodies and minds create strategies to avoid or evade the distress. One such means is through dissociation, which is a psychological defense mechanism wherein we subconsciously disengage from conflicting or menacing emotions.
It's a way of segregating our feelings so that we can avoid grappling with them. Here are some telltale indicators that you may have undergone dissociation or are currently experiencing it.
Polyvagal Theory
Polyvagal theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, offers a framework for understanding how our nervous system responds to stress and affects our wellbeing. It identifies three branches: the sympathetic nervous system for the fight or flight response, the parasympathetic nervous system for rest and recovery, and the social engagement system for bonding and feeling safe. Depending on the level of threat perceived, one of these branches will activate.
Understanding this theory can promote feelings of safety and social connection, which in turn can activate the social engagement system, reduce feelings of anxiety or stress, and provide a valuable tool for comprehending the complex interplay between our nervous system, emotions, and behavior.
Attachment Theory
The attachment theory posits that establishing a robust emotional and physical connection with a primary caregiver during our initial years is pivotal for our growth. When our attachment is secure, it fosters a sense of safety, enabling us to confidently engage with the world. Conversely, a weak attachment breeds insecurity, leading us to fear exploration and reluctance to leave the perceived threatening environment, unsure of our ability to come back. Consequently, comprehending our emotions becomes a challenge in such instances.
Books you may find helpful:
Trauma Literature:
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Articles you may find helpful:
How childhood trauma could be mistaken for ADHD
Article from Aces Too High News about the tendency to overlook childhood trauma and mistake it for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
Your Attachment Style Influences the Success of Your Relationship
The quality of our early attachments profoundly influences our relationships later in life.
What it Feels Like to Live with a Personality-Disordered Individual
Article from Out of the Fog about Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD), which is a consequence of prolonged exposure to emotional trauma beyond the victim's control, usually with no viable means or hope of escape.
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